Food for Thought

"I ain't saying that it's right, but we often pay the price
cause a woman's life is love and a man's love is life..."
"Breaking My Heart"
excerpt from Phonte's verse

Now that I'm a little more "grown up", I find myself not merely listening but actually paying attention to lyrics. I just recently downloaded "Breaking My Heart" and of course it's hot and it features Lil Wayne (which surprisingly doesn't make or break the song...not that LB isn't awesome, it's just that Wayne comes in with some ol' regular whatever rhyming) but what caught my attention was the quoted verse above. Now we all know I love me some Phonte, but I think those two lines are phenomenally insightful. Basically, a woman's goal is a loving relationship and a man's goal is having the time of his life. That's pretty great information if you think about it b/c it explains certain things. Like why a lot of men want to wait until a certain age to get married (I think it might be like 40 now) and why a lot of women want to get married pretty young. Men have more living to do and women feel like their living consists primarily of being a wife, then mother then everything else. Please note that I am NOT implying that this applies to all men and women, but society does and has always placed some sort of "traditional role" on males and females. I digress.

Phonte has done it again. Not only has he managed to entertain me with a hot ass song, but he has managed to provoke my thoughts. In relationships I am very much of a traditional "girly girly" (if I really love someone) and this can often lead to me taking a backseat on a lot of things that I want and need for me. I'm now learning to look out for myself b/c there's no guarantee that the significant other is going to always be around. Not that I don't believe in "real love" and "marriage" and "relationships" but I believe there's a better way (for me) to exist in those type of relationships. For me, that quotable illustrates what can happen if you don't continue to do you as well as doing all the relationship stuff. It's about balance and with balance you can choose it all. So I'm choosing love and life and when it's time, someone who can accept that.

This episode of Dr. Phil has officially come to a close. Please enjoy new hotness from "The Getback" below. (which I need to purchase this weekend)

Little Brother-Dreams ft. Praverb
"This is Your Night"-Little Brother
"Good Clothes"-Little Brother